In the recent weeks, we have been coming across a number of incidents in which young women were murdered brutally by spurned lovers. These dastardly men, like silent predators, have been living amidst us, just like any other normal citizens of the society. Unable to detect their murderous tendencies many young victims have remained vulnerable and unprotected, unaware of the imminent possibility of a violent assault that could kill them or grievously hurt for a lifetime, like in the cases of acid throw victims.
Rejection in love drives some men to resort to desperate attempts to win the heart of the women they love or hold them back in their lives. In extreme cases unable to cope up with rejection in love some even resort to killing themselves, the woman they love or both. In a way, these ideas are indeed picked up from the society. From literature to present day movies, we have plenty of material that propagate obsession in love as something praiseworthy.
Earlier, movies used to portray suicide as a fair culmination to love failure. And all the while until today, we have been seeing movies that show stalking as an acceptable way to pronounce love. Some idiot said all is fair in love and war, and every damn idiot thinks it's fair to do anything to win one's love interest. There are plenty of movies that show how a hero stalks a disinterested girl and how the girl falls for him after repeated stalking. From the storyline, dialogues to songs we have a plethora of nonsense that endorse every wrong method to pursue love or to handle rejection. It has sort of become mandatory for movies to have a drunken hero singing on the streets or in a roadside bar. What are they teaching young minds? Are they surrogate ads for liquor labels? The sole justification movie makers come up with is, "we are portraying reality." But in the name of portraying reality, they have only been promoting what shouldn't become a reality. If they want to make money, win awards and fame in the society, they may do so by creating responsible content. Those who sell perversion in the name of art, literature, and entertainment are squarely responsible for feeding wrong ideas into the minds of the youth, who at their age get easily carried away. Such perverts deserve a jail sentence for playing a catalytic role in these crimes, not national awards.
What we must teach young minds is rational views on love and not the glamorized fantasy of love. Reveling in a state of intoxication is not love and there is nothing sacred about obsession. Men and women may become extraordinary by their deeds, not merely by their appearance. Unless we start distinguishing this basic difference and stop giving undue importance to beauty, we are likely to suffer from the disease of obsession. In the long run, one will understand that real traits in an individual, their intent, and actions in life, count more than physical beauty. Beauty may perish in time and with that attraction too. Whereas, a matured stance in love will always retain elements like mutual care, respect for each others' interests and independence.
The search for a mate is common to all species life. As humans, we must show some civility to not harm anyone in the process. The choice to live with each other or to share their lives must come from mutual consensus and never by force. Both men and women could make judgmental errors in understanding the person they court. But if anyone at any point in time feels that the other person is not compatible, it may be better to end the relationship with an honest note, without misleading another or keeping the partner in dark until he/she discovers an unsavory truth. And even if the relationship ends not amicably, it's better for people to set themselves free from the bonds of the relationship and pursue their lives more meaningfully than to sulk in rejection. Indulging in self-pity or making frantic attempts to fix-up an irreparable or incompatible relationship will only result in frustration. Individuals should rather focus on qualifying themselves and lead a value based independent life until they come across someone who may share with them a mutual love interest.
Parents for their part should adopt a friendly approach with their children. This will help children to be frank with their parents. Ironically, in a society that hails some so-called literary masterpieces on love, which indeed are soft pornographic materials of those days, people are not open about their relationships. If men who assaulted some of these victims knew that parents of these girls are aware of their misadventures, it would have served as a strong deterrent against such crimes. Unfortunately, the biggest deterrent called punishment is almost absent in our society. Plagued by ample loopholes and corruption, effective justice is still a distant dream. And if we are going to sleep walk on issues like these, we will keep losing gullible lives to manic obsessions. These crimes indeed require an honest change in how the society perceives obsession and how it handles failed relationships. Perhaps a wrong directive from the society has been corrupting and motivating ignorant minds to become criminals.
Rejection in love drives some men to resort to desperate attempts to win the heart of the women they love or hold them back in their lives. In extreme cases unable to cope up with rejection in love some even resort to killing themselves, the woman they love or both. In a way, these ideas are indeed picked up from the society. From literature to present day movies, we have plenty of material that propagate obsession in love as something praiseworthy.
Earlier, movies used to portray suicide as a fair culmination to love failure. And all the while until today, we have been seeing movies that show stalking as an acceptable way to pronounce love. Some idiot said all is fair in love and war, and every damn idiot thinks it's fair to do anything to win one's love interest. There are plenty of movies that show how a hero stalks a disinterested girl and how the girl falls for him after repeated stalking. From the storyline, dialogues to songs we have a plethora of nonsense that endorse every wrong method to pursue love or to handle rejection. It has sort of become mandatory for movies to have a drunken hero singing on the streets or in a roadside bar. What are they teaching young minds? Are they surrogate ads for liquor labels? The sole justification movie makers come up with is, "we are portraying reality." But in the name of portraying reality, they have only been promoting what shouldn't become a reality. If they want to make money, win awards and fame in the society, they may do so by creating responsible content. Those who sell perversion in the name of art, literature, and entertainment are squarely responsible for feeding wrong ideas into the minds of the youth, who at their age get easily carried away. Such perverts deserve a jail sentence for playing a catalytic role in these crimes, not national awards.
What we must teach young minds is rational views on love and not the glamorized fantasy of love. Reveling in a state of intoxication is not love and there is nothing sacred about obsession. Men and women may become extraordinary by their deeds, not merely by their appearance. Unless we start distinguishing this basic difference and stop giving undue importance to beauty, we are likely to suffer from the disease of obsession. In the long run, one will understand that real traits in an individual, their intent, and actions in life, count more than physical beauty. Beauty may perish in time and with that attraction too. Whereas, a matured stance in love will always retain elements like mutual care, respect for each others' interests and independence.
The search for a mate is common to all species life. As humans, we must show some civility to not harm anyone in the process. The choice to live with each other or to share their lives must come from mutual consensus and never by force. Both men and women could make judgmental errors in understanding the person they court. But if anyone at any point in time feels that the other person is not compatible, it may be better to end the relationship with an honest note, without misleading another or keeping the partner in dark until he/she discovers an unsavory truth. And even if the relationship ends not amicably, it's better for people to set themselves free from the bonds of the relationship and pursue their lives more meaningfully than to sulk in rejection. Indulging in self-pity or making frantic attempts to fix-up an irreparable or incompatible relationship will only result in frustration. Individuals should rather focus on qualifying themselves and lead a value based independent life until they come across someone who may share with them a mutual love interest.
Parents for their part should adopt a friendly approach with their children. This will help children to be frank with their parents. Ironically, in a society that hails some so-called literary masterpieces on love, which indeed are soft pornographic materials of those days, people are not open about their relationships. If men who assaulted some of these victims knew that parents of these girls are aware of their misadventures, it would have served as a strong deterrent against such crimes. Unfortunately, the biggest deterrent called punishment is almost absent in our society. Plagued by ample loopholes and corruption, effective justice is still a distant dream. And if we are going to sleep walk on issues like these, we will keep losing gullible lives to manic obsessions. These crimes indeed require an honest change in how the society perceives obsession and how it handles failed relationships. Perhaps a wrong directive from the society has been corrupting and motivating ignorant minds to become criminals.